A continuing process wherey an individual acquires a personal identity and learns the norms, values, behaviour and social skills appropriate to his or her social position.
After studying and observing the identities, norms, values and behaviours that are prevalent in our post-modern society, such as ambition over relationship, materialism, pop-culture, bullying, my conclusion is that I would like my children to have the opportunity and freedom to acquire different social norms.
The process of learning interpersonal and interactional skills.
Knowing how to talk, interact and relate to others in our community is very important. But I think the question is: What are the best way to learn and develop positive interpersonal and interactional skills?
The process whereby a child learns to get along with and to behave similarly to other people in the group, largely through imitation as well as group pressure.
Hhmm. No thankyou. This is not what I want for my children.
To place under governmnet or group ownership or control.
No thankyou.
To make fit for companionship with others; make sociable.
An admirable aim - as long as it is positive and moral companionship, not negative and damaging.
To convert or adapt to the needs of society.
If converting or adapting to the needs of society means going with the status quo, then this is not the socialisation I want for my family. If it means seeing what the needs of society are, and then coming up with actions and attitudes that will improve and meet those needs and encourage others to as well, then I accept the challenge. Again the question will then be: How is the best way to teach positive social problem solving to our children?
To take part in social activities.
Nothing wrong with social activities - unless they are not a positive complement to your family relationships or education; or they encourage negative social behaviour and friendships with negative people and influences. To take part in social activities that are a postivie influence and enhance your life and community is a good thing.
And one last definition:
Socialisation is developing social skills that will enable children to interact appropriately in different situations.
Socialisation is the process of learning any social skill which facilitates interaction and communication with others.
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| Bedtime Story Charles Compton |
What is important to you as part of your children learning social skills?
How do you socialise your children?
4 comments:
I very much enjoyed this post! I also believe there is much to be gained from children learning values from their families rather than their peers. My daughter was home schooled for her second year and dual enrolled for her third. The change in her attitude is very noticable and she has now started asking for technological presents, where as she was once happy with a wooden or homemade toy and never asked me to buy her anything! Sadly I don't feel able to homeschool all my children so next year she will be at school full time but I feel torn about it.
Hi Linda,
Thanks for visiting. Yes, I can understand that the decision to have a child in school can be very difficult. And naturally there will be some changes as they are involved with different people and different situations, not the least of which will be a broadening of life experiences. Navigating this can be tricky, but it can still be an overall positive experience. I have no tips to share on this, but many other homeschooling families would. All the best. :)
Great post on a topic that is constantly associated with homeschooling. I've been thinking recently about how I could choose a good rebuttal for people who think that homeschooling does not allow the child to "socialise" without seeming too confrontational. I just wish people would stop asking me, it seems so much more important to them than it does to me! I'm happy with the way my children interact with others. They are each others best friends, some people think that's weird, I think it's brilliant! They haven't picked up any nasty ideas or character treats from others because we are able to regulate who they spend time with - once again, I think this is brilliant! I could go on and fill the page, but instead I've become a follower of your blog:)
Hello Handmaden :)
It is lovely to 'meet' you.
When I first began thinking about homeschooling, I must admit that socialisation is a question I pondered myself - I think it is part of the process of jumping off the mainstream merry-go-round of education. But once we have settled that question for ourselves it can sometimes become frustrating to hear it constantly brought up in coversation.
I have formed no rebuttal for when the question is posed to me, however, I do find myself just talking about the things we do as a family, the people we have met over the years, and the differing activities we have been involved in. At least that has turned the topic into a generally friendly conversation - and hopefully I am planting some seeds of understanding in the process.
I too have especially enjoyed watching the budding friendships develop between my own children - I think that has been the greatest gift of home schooling for our family.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I look forward to chatting with you again. :)
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